What’s Your Pleasure?

A Workshop for Women Who Want More

Do you struggle to experience sexual satisfaction? Is your relationship with pleasure unsatisfying or complicated? If you want to learn how to finally make peace with your sexuality and live a life filled with pleasure, this group is for you. Using Emily Nagoski's bestselling book Come As You Are as a foundation, you’ll go through it chapter-by-chapter and delve into the science behind women's sexuality. Guided by two sex and relationship therapists, you’ll build community with others who have struggled and questioned their relationship with pleasure, desire, and sexuality, and ultimately learn how to become more confident, free, and joyful when it comes to sex.

At Dalliance Sexual Wellness Collective, we believe that sexuality is a fundamental and essential aspect of being human and we recognize the importance of sexual intimacy in relationships. What’s Your Pleasure? A Workshop for Women Who Want More offers a unique opportunity for women to deepen their connection to their sexuality, explore their desires, and enhance their sexual satisfaction in a safe, supportive, and guided community environment.

This group is an immersive and specialized therapeutic experience designed specifically for women seeking to enrich their sexual relationship with themselves and their partners. Over the course of 10 weeks, you’ll receive the sex education you’ve always deserved but most likely never got. You’ll learn about sexual health, sexual expression, self-reflection, sexual fulfillment, and sexual mindfulness. You’ll engage in discussions with other women that will help you identify and explore your values, your limiting beliefs and negative thoughts, your relationship with your body, and learn how to choose to heal, both in your Self and in your relationship(s). Group content will cover a wide range of issues related to sexuality, relationships, arousal, desire, intimacy, stress management, self-care, and overall health as you age. This is a unique opportunity to engage in focused, comprehensive therapy aimed at improving sexual satisfaction and overall quality of life.

To create a safe, cohesive workshop environment, Trisha and Helen conduct 30 minute group member interviews. We do this to ensure all participants feel safe and comfortable in a vulnerable space. Workshop rules will be outlined in our first meeting and space will be offered if concerns ever arise.

This group is for you if…

  • You struggle to feel sexual satisfaction

  • You long for more pleasure

  • You find it hard to advocate for your sexual needs

  • Expressing your desires in the bedroom is a challenge

  • You’re fed up with the shameful sexual narratives

  • You’re often wondering what turns you on and what turns you off?

  • You’re confused about why you don’t desire sex as much as you used to

 

week by week

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    You’ll get to know your Self and your fellow group members, and together, we’ll build a strong foundation for the journey we’re about to embark on. You’ll explore your relationship to sexuality, pleasure, and start to learn the power of play, eroticism, mindfulness, and begin to wrap your head around science that informs it all. Most importantly, you’ll learn the meaning of choosing to heal, as well as redefine confidence and joy. Together, we’ll build shared language, set a strong foundation for the weeks ahead, start to identify themes, discuss the weekly structure, and prepare for doing the work.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • Building shared vocabulary
    • Choosing to heal
    • Confidence and joy

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    You’ll come out of this week having defined sexual health, sexual values, and you’ll be able to name your anatomy and your relationship to it.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • Familiarity with anatomy, anatomical differences between penis- and vulva-havers
    • Sexual mythbusting
    • Mindfulness

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    This week, you’ll get to know about the Dual Control Model, your Emotional One Ring, and how your body works with your brain to inform your relationship to sexuality and sexual expression

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • Brakes + accelerators
    • Eagerness, expecting, excitement
    • Building blocks to pleasure

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    This week, you’ll get to know the ins and outs of what does it for you, how your sexual spaces affect your willingness to be sexual, and get down to the nitty gritty of what specifically to address to create more pleasure and levels of arousal and desire.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • Positive and negative sexual context identification
    • Attachment theory and cultural norms & expectations
    • Individuation and differentiation

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    This week, you’ll learn about the difference between arousal and desire, how they actually work. learn how to address challenges with each, and learn what to do about sexual pain.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • Arousal Psychoeducation
    • Desire Psychoeducation
    • Sexual pain management

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    This week, you’ll address sexual experiences in the early stages of a relationship, how this period informs sex, and we’ll also discuss consent and power in relationships.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • Relational health
    • Limerence and growing into the long-term
    • Wheel of Consent and sexual safety

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    This week, we’ll tackle the mystery of how to do sexual relationships in the long-term, how to discuss your learnings with current and/or future partner(s), and what the big deal with attraction is.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • The eight components of magnificent sex
    • Attraction psychoeducation
    • Relational intelligence
    • Sexual communication
    • The role of touch

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    This week, we discuss all things orgasm, including how to have one, differences between men’s and women’s orgasms and experiences of the sexual response cycle, and why pleasure is the measure of a great sexual experience.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • Sexual mindfulness
    • Engaging with and knowing your sexual response cycle
    • Toys and techniques

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    This week, we’ll wrap up reading Come As You Are and learn what healing your sexual self really requires. We want to get as specific as possible so that you know your roadmap and terrain in healing your sexuality.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • The role of the body
    • Cognitive dissonance
    • Radical acceptance
    • Nonjudgement

  • WHAT TO EXPECT

    This week, you’ll support your Self and one another as you build out rituals for engaging with your sexuality, pleasure, confidence, and joy. You’ll reflect on your hard work, information gathered and gleaned, and plans for moving forward with the work in your own life and on your own terms.

    SKILLS DEVELOPED

    • Choosing to heal
    • Self-reflection
    • Cycle completion

 
 

Ready to invest in your sexual well being and pleasure?

Contact us today to learn more about our group What’s Your Pleasure? A Group for Women Who Want More and reserve your spot for our upcoming session!